Wedding vow writer

Answer a few questions with real details, and get a first draft of your vows to rewrite in your own voice.

Your draft

Fill in a few real details on the left: names, one story, what you love. The more specific you are, the less generic the draft.

A simple structure for personal wedding vows

Open with a moment. Where you met, the first thing you noticed, the day you knew.
Say who they are to you. Two or three qualities, each with a tiny example.
Make promises. Three or four: a couple of big ones (“to choose you on the hard days”) and one small, specific one (“to always leave you the last slice”).
Close with a line you can look up and say. Short enough to deliver without reading.

Tips for saying them on the day

Read them aloud at least five times beforehand; cut any sentence you trip over.
Print them in large type or write them in a vow book. Phones on the altar photograph badly.
Pause after the funny line and after the last line. Guests need a beat to react.
Check with your officiant whether your ceremony requires any legal or religious wording as well.

Questions couples ask

How long should wedding vows be?

About one to two minutes spoken, which is roughly 150–250 words. Agree a rough length with your partner so one set isn’t three times longer than the other.

How do you start writing vows?

Start with a specific memory, like the moment you knew, rather than a definition of love. Then say what you admire about your partner and make a handful of concrete promises.

Is it OK to use AI to write our vows?

Use it as a starting point, not the finished words. The draft is only as personal as the details you give it; rewrite each line until it sounds like you speaking.

Should vows be funny or serious?

Most memorable vows are mostly sincere with one or two light moments. A small, affectionate joke about a shared habit lands better than a roast.